Interview with a Single Mother on Choosing Life

Q: How old were you when you found out you were pregnant and what went through your mind?

A: 23, almost 24. I was scared shitless. My hands and my whole body were literally shaking when I took the test.

Q: How did your parents react?

A: They were not happy about it. For one, I wasn’t even in a committed relationship, let alone married. They eventually came to terms with it and were supportive in the end, but it was a long, hard road for all of us.

Q: Did you ever consider abortion? Why or why not?

A: For a NY minute, I wished I could consider it. It would have been an “easy out”. But I knew I could never live with myself afterwards if I did it. I also had been pro-life all my life. Why should my views change just because it was happening to me? That’s just cowardice and hypocrisy.

Q: How did your friends react to your decision to choose life for, and parent, Emma?

A: I lost a great many “friends”. It’s funny to me now how your true friends are revealed at times in your life when you need a true friend the most. They are few and far between in life. So when you do find a true one, you better hang on to them.

Q: What would you say are the joys of being a parent, even a single parent?

A: I know right away that I enjoy being a single parent because I don’t have to share my daughter with anyone. Especially in our circumstances, we don’t have to deal with that at all, because Emma’s dad isn’t even involved in her life; never has been. He knows she exists and that is it.

But honestly the greatest joy to me as a parent in general, is just having her with me… To see her smile and hear her laugh, and watch her grow and learn new things… Every day I thank God that He saw fit to give me such a gift. I learned what it is to truly love another person when I had her, because true love is selfless. It wasn’t til I had her that I realized what a truly selfish person I had always been.

Q: What kind of support network do you have?

A: My family… My mom and dad, my brother, my aunts and uncles, cousins, and grandmother. I have some good friends too, that help me out when I need it. One in particular who has been a father figure to Emma from the time that she was a baby til now.

Q: What do you hope for your future and your daughter’s future?

A: I hope that she grows up strong and healthy and happy. I also hope that she will be strong in character and will love others and grow into a bold and courageous, but gentle and kind-hearted woman. For my future, I hope to see my daughter fulfill her destiny, whatever God has in store for her. I know it will be something great. Maybe not in the eyes of this world… But in His eyes, I know she’s meant for something grand.

Q: If you met someone who was faced with an unplanned pregnancy, scared, and considering abortion, what would you tell them?

A: Abortion is final. It’s the end. There is no going back and there are no second chances. Base your decision on love. Love for your child, not love for yourself. Decisions made in fear lead to hollow victories at best; endless regret at worst. Live your life with no regrets. And no one on earth has ever regretted keeping their child. True love conquers all. And there is no truer love than a mother’s love for her child.

Q: Who inspires you and why?

A: Laura Ingalls Wilder. I’m sure that sounds funny when we’ve been discussing this topic. But since my childhood, I have admired her. Because she lived a rough and rugged life. But her life was full of joy and contentment. And that is the way I think life is meant to be lived. It’s not supposed to always be easy and carefree. Where’s the fun …the adventure… in that? Life is hard sometimes, and even painful. But the best things in life are usually brought about through pain. My daughter was even conceived in the midst of a lot of pain in my life, But the beautiful part to me is that even in the midst of all that pain, God brought about something glorious …He redeemed my life from the pit of despair – Through the conception and birth of my beautiful daughter. And without her, I would not be the woman I am today.

A lot of women I’ve talked to tell me, Well that’s great that you had her and went through all that, but you’re a strong person. I could never do that.

To them I say,

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Life is what you make it. So make it great. And live it with no regrets.



I found the format for this interview in an article where a young single mother, like myself was interviewed for and I wanted to answer the questions myself for my blog 🙂 thought it was cool. I basically just interviewed myself. lol


About Shannon

My life is summed up in two words: Saving Grace. God saw fit to bless me with a little girl who, for all intents and purposes, turned out to be my saving grace. She is the best part of my life, and the best part of me. I am a single working mother (I know, that phrase is redundant :) so I don't have a lot of time for extracurricular activities, but I like to write, and so I thought I'd start another blog (I've had many in the past) so that I could have an outlet for myself, during my down time ...whenever that can be snatched. It's few and far between these days.... but we'll see where this takes me.
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